This is a guest post from Ivan Fatovic, Founder/CEO of Modamily, Inc. and a Community Partner with the Fertility Planit Show 2013. Modamily provides a network where members can meet like-minded people who dream of becoming a parent. It's the go-to resource for information about co-parenting and sperm donor laws, fertility options, pregnancy health and well-being, and best practices & recommendations for how to embark on this journey. Ivan and Modamily have been featured in BBC News, ABC News, Fox News, the Huffington Post and more.
One of the questions people always ask me is why did I start Modamily. Don’t I believe in marriage?
I am fortunate enough to come from one of those rare families where my parents are still happily married. At the time I didn’t realize it, but it was blissful to grow up in such a stable, loving environment. There is no doubt that a traditional family is a great way for a kid to develop, but it is not the only way.
I believe that the loving support system that all children need when growing up can be found in many of the modern family structures that exist today. The fact is that the traditional family structure is not available to everybody; for those who don't have this option co-parenting is an answer.
Co-parenting is the shared raising of a child without romantic involvement. At Modamily we provide co-parents a social network where they can find like-minded people and help them achieve their dream of becoming a parent on their own terms. Traditionally co-parenting has been the domain of parents separating or divorcing; the LGBT community has also been successfully raising children by co-parenting for years.
More recently, co-parenting has become a parenting option for single women and men who are feeling the pressure of their biological clock, or who have no romantic partner but do not want to raise a child alone.
People that want to have children and do not have a romantic partner, usually consider being a single parent or ‘settling’ with the person they are in a romantic relationship with and for many this option is not appealing.
Modamily gives people the freedom to find a compatible co-parenting partner and who shares your beliefs and visions for how you want to raise a child. Using a known donor has many advantages primarily that it allows a child to understand its identity. Eventually a child is going to want to know where they come from and it is important that they have a relationship with both biological parents on some level.
The level of involvement that the co-parenting couple will have with each other can be anything from occasional visits to sharing a residence. The fact is fifty percent of marriages end in divorce and the children grow up in two homes. The difference with co-parenting is the individuals or group starting this modern family arrangement wants the child from the start - the child is the priority and the parent is not doing it alone.
For many co-parenting will sound like a pretty radical concept; for those without the option of a traditional family Modamily is a dream come true. Modamily is proud to have is started a national conversation about co-parenting and raising the profile of this seismic shift happening in modern family arrangements.
This is just the beginning!